#1 - “Your hairline won't always be done straight”

Now, this one is about managing expectations and giving people a bit of grace. This point basically stemmed from an instance where I was getting my hair cut by my regular barber.

I was going to him for a long period of time - my brother went to him, my father went to him so he was like the family barber.

There was one time that I got my haircut from him for my traditional wedding, and he kind of messed me up a bit. And I was like, “bro you've actually kinda done it wrong” and we disagreed about it, and I was like “You know what?” out of annoyance, I said “I'm not gonna go to this guy again.” So I didn't go back to him, for a long time.

But over time, I noticed that it's not just him; sometimes, people have off days and we have to accept the fact that not everything will go our way. We might go somewhere with a certain expectation, but it doesn't necessarily mean that those expectations will be met. And if they don't, it's not the end of the world, we can just adapt. A lot of the time, it's not even that deep, because after a while your ‘hairline’ will grow back. So if it's not done straight at that time, there's always next time. And even at the time that it's not done perfectly straight, most people won't notice anyway.

So, just be encouraged that although your hairline might not get done straight, things might not work out exactly the way you want them to, it's not the end of the world, you'll be fine.

And give those people grace, because I think we will need a bit of grace.

(P.S. I did end up doing back to my original barber in the end.)